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††† My Thoughts on Step Three


"Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him"


††††† The story I was told about three frogs sitting on a log one made a decision to Jump How many were left I remember to this day I said two and my sponsor looked at me and said your dead wrong the one frog only made a decision to jump he did not actually jump. All three are still on the log


††††† Step three deciding to do something doesn't mean I have actually done it I know I can make a thousand decisions and still be sitting on the log it is the course of action I had to take as a result of making the decision that what got me off the log


††††† Step three is to understand that NOTHING HAPPENS except the decision the we "make a decision" between living in the problem step one and finding a power that will solve our problem step two The only thing left is putting that decision into action working the steps four thru nine the action steps


††††† Subconsciously I thought I had turned my life and will over to God in this step three and I did not really have to do steps four thru nine RIGHT!!That is what happens when I think if it were true that I could actually turn my will over in step three there would be no need to do any more steps


††††† But if I do the steps of making an inventory talking to someone about it becoming ready and asking God to remove my character defects and shortcomings make a list of harms done and then making the amends then I know I have put into effect the decision I made in step three


††††† I have taken the necessary actions to turn my will and my life over to the care of God, as I now understand him the God of unconditional love and forgiveness who has relieved me of the bondage of myself and has now removed the desire to drink for me guiding me in my new life


††††† Today my experience tells me when I cannot understand something it is simple because I have some fears and misgivings to that understanding usually a fear so great that it prevents my mind from understanding I know today it was false fear of changing something or using free will again


††††† What is so reassuring about the third step making this program of recovery so awesome is that I am free to choose who this God of my understanding is and He does not have to meet anyone elseís requirements or expectations of what God is except my own of love and forgiveness


††††† God who has never left me always sustained me and comforted me and makes my life able to be lived with out the guilt shame and remorse of a past of selfishly using my free will instead of turning my will over to Him he is my Higher Power and may not be the same as yours and thatís OK


††††† During my time in this program I have met many people who have all different kinds of Higher Powers some were agnostics and atheists some found their personal Higher Power to be Nature and their "church" or Just being around a tree-studded yard with beautiful flowers


††††† Once we have come into agreement with these ideas, it is really easy to begin the practice of Step Three. In all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we can pause, ask for quiet, and in the stillness simply say:


"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done."


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