Detachment
Detachment is always hard I still have
to deal people places and things are around me
I have to deal in regards to all
aspects of my life and some times this is hard to do
Knowing there is hope for all who suffer
I sometimes tend to try to fix them
And try to change them well it can be
an all-consuming emotional battle
Thinking of how I can detach from the
problems of others in the grips of this disease
Having sons who are still out there in
the mist of the disease is most difficult
I have been told many time in recovery
people have the right not to recover
Our best intentions and best efforts
may not achieve what we want for others
Especially if what we want the most for
our family and friends is the recovery
And no matter how much we want them to
be healthy and whole and drug free
Given them all of the information we
can give them show them or help them
They still have the right not to want
this recovery that was freely given to us
Well I did learn everyone needs to hit
his or her own bottom I must let this happen
Believe me this tough love is not an
easy thing to do when it’s your family
When you see your loved ones living on the
streets begging and stealing to survive
While your safe in your nice warm home
with plenty to eat and nice hot water to bathe
Knowing they could have this only if
they are willing to ask for and accept help
Unconditional love does also mean that
we have to let go so they can find themselves
I am always praying this day will soon
come to them as it did for me
Praying we don’t lose them forever in
the disease of alcoholism and drug addiction
No matter how hard we try to give them recovery
we can't force anyone else to change
God we can't get inside other people's
heads and make their choices for them
Decisions that could make a difference
do not come from free will
They come from the inside not the
outside they are personal not social
The only thing we can do is become examples
thru how we live our lives
This is the most powerful tool we have
in our toolbox for these situations
The only influence we can make is of a
life lived with serenity and truth
All we can do is let the light of the
program shine through us to them
And pray that the wall blocking the
light will somehow be taken down
As much as I want to give this to my
loved ones all I can do is pray for them
They are Gods children and He will care
for them until they can care for themselves
I try to remember my first problem is
to accept their present circumstances as they are
And to remember how closed minded I was
for so many years in the grip of this disease
I have to accept the people around me,
as they are Just as I accepted my powerlessness
They have to find and accept life on
life's terms I can only pray for that to come soon
Very hard to accept situations and
people as they are instead of as I would like them to be
Much more so when they are my family
members and I see them slowly dying before me
I had to let go of the frustrations and
fears I had so as to live my life under Gods terms
There are no more difficult people in
the world than the ones you love the most FAMILY
I think it has come for our sons and
hope it continues to keep them clean and sober
I know being so close to family I
cannot help like others can today
There are many treatment centers they
can go to for this help and halfway houses
And have a happy life trusting in Gods care
and becoming thankful for Gods gift to us all
Knowing we Need to let go and let God
does not make it easy when its family
And we are human beings who love them
and want the best for them
Page written
and Designed by AL__LT 30
